By Lexi Hoffman, M.A.

We all know about the time-honored time-out parents use to separate fighting children or calm an over-excited child. The parent calmly explains to the child that he must sit quietly for a reasonable period of time, usually less than 10 minutes or one minute per year of age. Time-outs give children time to simmer down, think about their behavior and realize that a parent will not allow such behavior to continue. But did you know a parent’s time-out is also a good idea? You might find a time-out now and then is just the stress reliever that you need.

Start by taking a deep breath. It is a good way to prevent losing your temper. Take slow, measured, deep breaths to calm down. Count to 10 while breathing in, and do the same while breathing out.

Take your time-out in another room like your bedroom or bathroom and shut the door. Stay there for a few minutes while you de-stress. Don’t spend too much time in time-out, and be sure to let your children know where you are going.

When you come out of the room, let your children know where you have been. Tell your children why you were flustered and how the whole family could have handled things better. If you think you were in the wrong, apologize for your behavior. Your children will follow your pattern and will give themselves time-outs as needed to avoid a meltdown.